If they don't have a word to define themselves, they may still be discovering themselves or haven't thought about their lives.
Discuss your partner's childhood. It will reveal their childhood, likes, dislikes, and similarities to you. Who knows? Perhaps you liked the same game.
This question will reveal whether the other person is as spontaneous or closed as you are. You can discover if the other person prefers a movie date or street dancing.
This question may make you and your partner smile. It reveals their values. Perhaps it's a blooming flower or cloud patterns. For future smiles, remember the cues.