Tuesday, January 25

“We must stop impunity”: words of victims one year after #Metooinceste

In the wake of the Olivier Duhamel affair, hundreds of people took to Twitter to denounce the incest of which they were victims.

In the wake of the Olivier Duhamel affair, hundreds of people took to Twitter to denounce the incest of which they were victims. Ray, Leila, Mélina and Laurent are part of it. A year later, they tell of their reconstruction.

– Ray Gasseville, 44 years old: “A validation from the company”

Raped several times between the ages of 6 and 8 by a teenager in his family, he obscured these memories for thirty years.

“It was very important to compare my experience to those of others. When I shared my story, I saw every comment, every retweet, as a form of validation from society. It’s as if I was told: we understand what you’ve been through and we believe you, “he explains.

“This year, in addition to speaking publicly, I had to grieve. I accepted that we wouldn’t talk about it with my family. I tried with my mother, but she didn’t want to. not understand. That’s how it is. “

– Leila * (first name changed), 20 years old: “It is important to train educational staff to recognize the signs”

For her studies, Leila moved in with her uncle. He assaulted her and filmed her without her knowing it for five years.

“I felt like I was the only one going through this in the whole world. Seeing people sharing their stories gave me hope. Since then, I have felt liberated.”

“We have to protect the children. The first time I went to the police to file a complaint, I was a minor. They did not take me seriously.”

“One day, when I was all alone in high school, a supervisor from the school saw me in bad shape. He put me in confidence and asked me what was going on. I didn’t. I will never thank enough for that. After five years of struggle, I finally gave in. It is very important that the educational staff know how to recognize the alarm signals that are sent to them. Training is necessary, it is important. “

– Mélina Froger, 21: “We must stop impunity”

Raped by her uncle in 2008, 2012 and 2015, this Rennaise saw her complaint dismissed. Today, her attacker works in a campsite, with other children.

“It hurt me to see that there were so many people testifying. That they were all going through the same thing as me. I don’t wish this pain on anyone.”

“My rebuilding started a little bit before #Metoo, when I filed a complaint against my attacker. Then I was happy. I thought if everyone talked about it, it was going to work in my favor. Three weeks ago, I learned that the case was dismissed. The French state clearly does not protect its children. ”

“This year, we must stop impunity. The aggressors must be brought to justice. We talk, we give everything but it continues anyway. It fools the rage, I expected at least a trial. I was not not its only victim “.

– Laurent Boyet, 50 years old: “Shame changes sides”

Laurent was raped by his older brother, who returned from boarding school in 1977. An ordeal that will last three years. Today, he is a member of the Independent Commission on Incest and Sexual Violence against Children (Ciivise) and founder of the association to fight against child abuse Les Papillons.

“I wanted to be part of this movement. To make sense of what happened to me. In writing my tweet, I wanted to speak to our inner children and tell them: it’s ours,” he says.

“A year later, things are going very well. Shame is changing sides. 2021 was the year of the victims, 2022 must be the year when society supports the movement.”

“Each family must do what Camille Kouchner did. Each family must stop inviting + uncle Robert + when we all know what he has done. We must not let the children become completely battered adults. that the next quinquennium be the quinquennium of child protection “.


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